Many people look forward to the holidays. So do I - to an extent. I thoroughly enjoy being with family and friends. However, it completely drains me! After shopping for gifts all week and being with extended family the past two days in a row, I feel lifeless. I have absolutely no energy, no drive, no desire to move. And that is very inconvenient. I mean, my house is a wreck and I NEED to clean it up! I have backed up laundry that needs to be washed. But those things seem so insurmountable to me today. All I really want to do is stay in my PJ's in the bed and watch mindless entertainment. I don't want to think, clean or cook.
I wish I were more like my husband. He is a work horse! If he knows something needs to be done, he just does it! He's also one who enjoys being around people. Social gatherings do not tire him like they do me. He doesn't understand how just simply being around a group of people can wear me down. Here's a quote from the book I talk about in the aforementioned post: "In general, extroverts don't spend much time stuck in a rut. They are up and going before they even think about it. But for the introverts, getting going can be like scaling Mt. Everest." That is so true!
Other interesting (to me) points made in the book on introverts is this: "Many introverts don't feel as if they know enough about a subject until they know almost everything." Again - so true! I can't tell you how many times I've wanted to do something, but didn't dare try until I "researched" it. I spend so much time on research when I could actually DO what I wanted to in the first place. Another quote from the book: "Extroverts like to experience a lot, and introverts like to know a lot about what they experience." I think I drive my husband and kids crazy because I want to know the history behind things. When we go on vacation, I want to see the historical buildings and read up on the culture of the area and so on. They, however, just want to GO and DO things!
Out of curiosity, I would like to know if you are an introvert or an extrovert, and what you think about the people who are opposite of yourself. If you need a little help to figure out what you are, here is a 'quickie quiz' that is taken out of the book I keep mentioning (which, by the way, is titled THE INTROVERT ADVANTAGE, HOW TO THRIVE IN AN EXTROVERT WORLD by Marti Olsen Laney, Psy.D.):
- Like to be in the thick of things
- Relish variety, bored of sameness
- Knows lots of people, consider them friends
- Enjoy chitchatting, even with strangers
- Feel stoked after activity, eager for more
- Speak or act without needing to think first
- Are generally quite peppy
- Tend to talk more than listen
- Prefer to relax alone or with a few close friends
- Consider only deep relationships as friends
- Need rest after outside activities, even ones you enjoy
- Often listen but talk a lot about topics of importance to you
- Appear calm, self-contained, and like to observe
- Tend to think before you speak or act
- Experience mind going blank in groups or under pressure
- Don't like feeling rushed
So, how did you score? I would like to hear your thoughts/feelings. If you're an extrovert, what do you tend to think about introverts and vice versa? I look at extroverts with envy. I truly wish I could just get up and go, go, go! I also wish that I could go up to any person and strike up a conversation. However, I tend to observe people for a bit and try to figure out where they're coming from before I feel comfortable talking to them for any extended amount of time. I've always said about my husband that he "has never met a stranger", and I wish I could say the same thing about myself.
Well, since I started writing today's post, I've actually set it aside to go start a load of laundry, unloaded/loaded the dishwasher, cleared the 'hot spot' in the kitchen, and dusted my bedroom. That is much more than I expected to get today. Of course, that's just the tip of the iceberg of what really needs to be done around here, but for now I'll allow myself to consider it a small victory.